The first time you have sex.What to do?
Despite what your friends, your mother or your boyfriend may tell you, there is no right way to have sex. No-one can become an expert overnight, no matter how many books and magazines we read, or how many soppy movies we watch.
Different people like different things. Having sex with someone new, no matter how many times you’ve done it before, is as unpredictable as the first time you had sex.
Good sex depends on finding out the things you and your partner like and feel comfortable doing. Emotions also play a big part in making sex a pleasurable experience.
*FOREPLAY
Foreplay and heavy petting are great ways to establish what turns you and your partner on, so by the time you decide to have sex, you’ll have a pretty good idea of what you both like. Kissing, touching, talking, fantasizing and oral sex are all facets of foreplay, which help us locate and determine our physical needs and desires. By exploring each other’s bodies, you’ll discover how to turn each other on. Generally, guys like the same things we do when it comes to foreplay, but there’s no simpler way to get to know each other’s sexual likes and dislikes than to talk about them. Sometimes, being observant is just as effective -watching the way your guy reacts to foreplay will give you an indication of what he likes when it comes to sex.
*SEXUAL POSITIONS
You don’t have to be a sexual acrobat to be good in bed - but you do have to experiment. Trying new sexual positions is the only way to find out what feels good and what doesn’t. You may think it looks sexy to do it in a specific way, but that doesn’t mean you’ll find it physically pleasurable. Swapping positions during sex can be a good way to experiment. There are many more ways to have sex than just the boy on top/girl on top options. You might’ want to fry it sitting down, standing up. face to face or lying side on to each other. Basically, if it feels good for both of you, you’re doing it right, but if either of you are in pain, try a new position. If you feel comfortable talking about different styles with your guy, sexual positions are limited only by your imagination,
*ORGASM
The most important thing to remember about orgasms is that you don’t have to have one in order to have good sex. Orgasms are like the icing on the cake, and like everything else related to sex, they take practice to master. Just about everyone is capable of having an orgasm - it’s just a matter of experimenting with your body to find out how you can achieve one. Clitoral stimulation is the most common way to have an orgasm. This can happen in the course of sex, or from your partner’s touch or masturbation. Some girls can have vaginal orgasms, which are brought on by stimulating arousal points inside the vagina. Multiple orgasms are possible, but they’re nothing like what you see in the movies.
*EMOTIONS
One of the most important factors in having a good sex life is how you feel about it emotionally. If you’re not sure that you want to be with a certain guy, or if the timing is wrong, it certainly won’t help your sex life. On the other hand, if you’re in love with someone and sex is an extension of your feelings for each other, it can be a wonderful experience. Even if you don’t have an orgasm the very first time, or if things start off a little awkwardly, at least you’ll be relaxed (both physically and mentally), and that plays a big part in making sex enjoyable. The best sex happens when two people are totally comfort able with each other, and can com municate their feelings as well as their physical needs.
*PROTECTION
Being responsible about sex is as important as being good at it. These days, no-one has to feel embarrassed talking about or using sexual protection. Talk to your guy about condoms, and make sure you’ve always got some handy - just in case. You can even make using condoms part of foreplay, by learning how to put them on your guy’s penis.
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