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Find a color that compliments your hair and skin! Icy pastels, reds and navy look great on blondes. Redheads shine in hunter green, wine, chocolate, blue, or cream. Girls with black hair and olive or dark skin sizzle in the hot new brights or white. Brunettes look best in warm browns, blues, greens, and jewel tones.

Don’t overstuff. Only chairs, Oreos and turkeys succeed here. How to battle the bulge? Don’t layer a quilted vest over a quilted jacket. If you wear a quilted coat, make sure the rest of your outfit is slim-fitting and streamlined.

Buy a coat that’s roomy enough to accommodate your winter clothes underneath.

Don’t wear your sporty new ski jacket with a party dress and heels—find a fun fur, wrap or long princess-line coat instead.

Have fun with winter accessories. Bright mittens, a fun scarf, and knit caps are cute, cuddly and warm!

Don’t wear a ratty coat. Scouting thrift stores for the perfect vintage find is a creative (and cheap!) way to find a new fall coat, but remember to look for the same qualities (fit, good construction, no rips or tears) that you would look for in a department store buy.

What should I do if I have car trouble?
Always keep emergency numbers in the auto in case of breakdowns or flats, and use a cell phone to dial a tow truck and your parents. (Look into cheap rates for emergency-only call service.) If you get lost on the road, don’t motor on aimlessly. Pull into the parking lot of a busy place to use your portable phone or hit a pay phone inside a store. If you get out of your car to ask for directions, lock the doors—even if you’re just running right in and out.
I shopped till closing, and it was spooky walking back to my car. What should I do next time?
Most malls have courtesy patrols, so ask a security guard to walk with you. Avoid parking next to a van that’ll obscure your view of the lot, park under a light when you can—and try to wrap up your sprees before all the other patrons split.
When’s the smartest time for outdoor exercise?
Get in shape safely during the day. Wear bright or reflective clothing, and take your ID and change for a phone call (think twice about carrying mace or pepper spray— they can end up being used against you). And don’t blast your tunes!

If “rewards” or “bribes” offend the moralist in you, call them motivators. Gradually your child will get used to the good feelings that come from good behavior. Once the feelings themselves become motivators, the need for rewards will lessen. Here are some reward systems that have worked well both in my home and office.

¦ Interactive charts. It’s one thing to devise a list of desir able behaviors and put a check beside each when a child complies; it’s another to make the checking-off an in teresting activity in itself. Kids love stickers, so buy special ones and let your child put them on a chart. Or have your child draw a pic ture of something she wants. Outline the picture with dots about an inch apart. Each time she displays a desired behavior (says “excuse me” when she leaves the dinner table or picks up her toys ), let her draw a line from one dot to another. When she has completely outlined her prize, she collects it.
¦ Accentuate both the posi tive and the negative. If your youngster misbehaves, place a sad-face sticker on the chart. If he’s compliant, put on a happy-face sticker. If the happy faces outnumber the sad ones at week’s end, your child gets a reward he’s cho sen beforehand.
¦ Give-and-take tactics. Each time your child cooperates, give him a dime to put in a clear jar. When you get a grumble, have him take one out. He’ll soon be inspired by the depth of the dimes and think twice before whining. Or make up a stack of “tick ets” on index cards or slips of paper. Give your child a few free tickets at the begin ning of the day with the un derstanding that she can earn more each time she be haves but will lose a ticket for nagging or being disobe dient. At the end of the week, reward her with a special treat that reflects the number of tickets she has collected. One mom who tried the tick et system appreciated how it helped her see the good in her child. “I found myself saying, ‘I liked how coopera tive you were this morning,’ or, ‘Thank you for going to bed when I asked you to.’”
¦ Yes days and no days. The mother of a 5-year-old boy confided one day, “I want to enjoy being a parent, but my son won’t cooperate when I ask him to do the simplest things.” I advised her to tell the boy, “I want to be a hap py mom. To help me, we’re going to make a yes-and-no chart. Every time I ask you to do something and you say, ‘Yes, Mom,’ we’ll mark it on the chart; if you say no, we’ll mark that too. On the days you say yes more than no, we’ll do something special together.” Soon her son real ized that a happy mom was much more fun to be with than a cranky one.

Your room… the place where you sit, study, sleep. Research shows that the average person spends about ±2. hours a day in her room. How can you make such an important place look more like a palace? Try out some of these tips, and turn your room into a super space.

1 - clean it.
Okay, so mother knows best on this one. But psychological experiments have also shown that a neat, orderly environment can make a person happier than a messy, disorganized one.
•Use baskets to organize small accessories.
•Organize your closet, so that there’s a specific spot for everything.
•Color code the clothing in your closet.
•Schedule a day each week that’s your room clean-up day.

2. Add some life to your living space.
Houseplants can bring a bit of the great outdoors inside. Look for plants that are front-runners in the almost-impossible-to-kill category. Five that are famous for flourishing (even when they are almost ignored)?
•aspidistra (the cast iron plant)
•dracaena (corn plant)
•ficus
•pothos
•sansevieria (the snake plant)

3. Create a comfortable sitting spot.
You can buy pillows or an old but comfy chair at a secondhand store. Or head for a garage sale if you can’t afford new furnishings. Some colorful pillowcases or a throw cover can hide holes, spots or worn areas.

4- Provide some mood music. It’s been said that, “Music washes away from the soul the dust of everyday life.” To create a soundgarden in your room, try out a nature tape that brings the sounds of the outdoors inside. Choose from:
•waterfalls
•sounds of the rainforest
•birds
•ocean waves
•rainfall

5- Be sure your room smells good.
For a complete sensory experience, be sure that your room has scent-appeal. Try:
•Potpourri
•Fragrance rings
•Room Fresheners
•Sachets/Scented Drawer liners

6- Let there be light.
Rooms that feel dark and confining can put people in a funk. To add some illumination to your living space, try some of the following techniques:
•Up the wattage on the light bulbs you use. Also, check out some of the soft pastel light bulbs that can add a pinkish or rosy effect to a room.
•Add an extra lamp.
•Open your curtains or shutters to let more outside light in.

7- Fill your room with things that are special to you.
Your living space should reflect your personal style, so showcase your prized possessions. Consider displaying some of the following things to create a room that spells out who you are:
•a bulletin board that shows off some of your favorite stuff
•a poster of a place you hope to travel to
•a print by a favorite artist
•photos of important people in your life
•your favorite stuffed animals or a collection that’s important to you

8- Become more clutter conscious.
Often it’s the little things that can make your room appear messy. To control the clutter, keep some of your favorite smaller stuff right near your bed. Things you might include?
•favorite photos
•letters from friends and relatives •cartoons that make you
laugh every time you read ‘em •a journal

9- Turn your room into a refuge from youTDUsy schedule.
To lift your spirits and create a sanctuary from chaos, consider adding special touches to your romm that will make you feel more calm r, and at peace.
•a covered carafe filled with water
•a vase of flowers
•a bowl of fruit
•a crocheted throw 10.Surround yourself with your favorite colors.

A number of colors are known for their soothing qualities. To create the most peaceful sleeping space possible, consider linens or room accents in the following colors:
•pale blue
•white
•seafoam green
•pale pink
•lilac
•peach
•ivory
•soft yellow

He’s a flirt. He tells you you’re the one—then proceeds to flash his cute smile at every girl he sees. Should you attribute this behavior as some defective male gene, or should you dump him and move on to someone who only has eyes for you?
Tips to handle a flirtatious boyfriend:

realize that his ‘ ego is at stake, and he’s dealing with the same insecurities as you and your friends. It’s normal for a guy to want to feel loved and adored by everyone. His way of getting the attention he craves is to flirt.

Tell him how you feel about his flirting. Let him know that you don’t like it when he flirts with other girls. If he really cares about you, he’ll probably try to be sensitive to your feelings. He might not even realize he’s doing it!

don’t i flirt with other guys to get revenge! Remember, your boyfriend is flirting because he’s insecure. If you start flirting it’ll just make him feel worse, and probably push the two of you apart even more. (Besides, you’re the mature one, right?)

Try to satisfy some of your boyfriend’s need to feel special by telling him how great you think he is, and by showing him how important he is to you. Some over-the-top compliments never hurt, either: “Hey, you’re the funniest/cutest/smartest/ hairiest legged guy in school,” could do wonders for a guy’s self-esteem, and might curb his need to get attention from other sources.

If he still can’t restrain IT himself, and his flirtatious behavior continues to bother you, don’t hesitate to bail on the guy! If he’s so insecure that he compulsively flirts at your expense, you don’t need him! TOP tip: DON’T TAKE HIS FLIRTING PERSONALLY! It usually has nothing to do with a girl not being pretty, charming or witty enough, but is instead 100% the guy’s personal problem. In other words, he’d do it to anyone he’s dating! (The same goes for flirtatious girls). It just means he has some major growing up to do!