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When introducing two people, start with the name of the person you know. “I’ll say, ‘I want you to meet Joan Smith. She’s a dear friend. Joan … ?’ Joan will then introduce herself, eliciting a response from the person I’ve forgotten.”

If the situation is one-on-one, restate your name and pray the person returns the favor. Or leave the name out: “Use a detail you remember about them instead, such as ‘How are things going with your new health food business?’ If all else fails, say, ‘It’s so nice to see you again. I’m so sorry, would you please tell me your name again?’ Nine times out of 10, they can’t recall your name either!”

Ask anyone who’s at ease in front of a crowd how they do it, and the first thing, the key thing, the if-you-only-do-one-thing-do-this thing she’ll say is: prepare. Rehearsal is the work, and performance, the relaxation. That doesn’t mean memorizing your entire speech. But you must practice it, in front of live people, as many times as you (and they) can stand it. Fine. We get it. We need a little more help for the day-of.

Get to the venue where you will be speaking about an hour early. Test the sound system and any other equipment you’ll be using. If you can, greet the people who will be in your audience, That twill make them feel like friends.

About ten minutes before you speak, use the bathroom.
About five minutes before, take some deep breaths—just enough to get your adrenaline under control. We like the 5-5-10 method: Breathe in through your nose for five seconds, hold for five seconds, then exhale through your mouth for 10 seconds. Let your arms hang by your sides and just shake them, discreetly. Or, if you have some privacy, slip off your shoes, stand on one leg, and shake the other. Switch legs and repeat. When you put your foot back on the ground, it will feel lighter, explaining that this will channel your nervous energy into the floor. It’s a practical technique used by actors.

The secrets is keeping a straight face; whether you choose to use them at the gaming table or elsewhere is you call.
Observe the competition for at least one hand to analyze their betting patterns, and don’t create your own by playing with your hair or fiddling with your chips. Hold your cards with both hands at all times. A good hand is easy to recognize: players’ pupils get big. They look as if they have just woken up, and they study their chips to calculate their winnings. Breathe-holding your breath is a telltale sign that you are lying! Raise the bet only two or three times higher, and focus your eyes on one thing, like the flop- a reasonable thing to stare at. You are not going to pull it off all the time, but when you do, it’s a great feeling.

You rarely ever show your true feelings preferring not to rock the boat. This doesn’t give the party a chance to possibly make things better - and only further permits the negativity to fester within you.

You resort to name-calling when things don’t go your way. You need to learn to disagree without turning to insults to put your message across.

You roll your eyes, smirk when your partner says something or point your finger at him while talking. This shows a lack of respect for him. You may need to examine why you feel this way.

You don’t actively listen while he talks since your mind is too occupied coming up with a stinging retort.

You normally start a fight with words like “You always” or “You never” littered with sweeping accusations. This type of generalization doesn’t get you anywhere and sets you up for a bigger blow-up.

DON’T APPORTION BLAME. It’s unlikely to be 100 percent the other person’s fault, so acknowledge your part in it and explain how the other person’s actions have made you feel.

BE AN ADULT. Don’t whine like a child or become stubborn. And don’t be condescending or cruel. You’ll only weaken your own position.

DON’T SET OUT TO WIN. If you’re a couple, you’re meant to be a team- it’s not about scoring points.

TRY TO UNDERSTAND THE OTHER PERSON’S POINT OF VIEW. Put yourself in their shoes and let them know that you are trying to empathize with them.

STICK TO THE ISSUE IN QUESTION. Don’t bring up everything that’s been irritating you over the past few months. Find a separate time to discuss other grievances.

LISTEN TO THE OTHER PERSON. Don’t talk or shout over them - it takes two to argue, so give the other person a chance to speak then take what they’re saying on board.

KNOW WHEN AN ARGUMENTS OVER. Don’t keep it going for hours when every thing’s been said. Cool down for a couple of days and you’ll probably find it’s all resolved.

DON’T SHOUT. All the person will hear is noise and they won’t really listen to what you’re saying. You also become much less articulate when you’re shouting.

DON’T ARGUE FOR THE SAKE OF IT. If you’ve had a bad day at work or are having a trying time, with the children, don’t take it out on your partner. Tell him calmly how you’re feeling instead of arguing about who forgot to put the bins out.

TRY TO LAUGH. Humor can defuse almost every situation - but not when the other person is pouring their heart out. Choose your moment to lighten things up.

Here’s the downside about office parties: You have to face your workmates every day of the week. Which is why practicing some form of etiquette is important. Bear these rules in mind:

Don’t drink too much. Having a social drink is appropriate, but don’t go overboard. Drunkenness and decorum simply do not mix!

If you are pursuing a romantic liaison, think carefully about the complications of making your interest public and avoid colleagues who have a camera unless you’re prepared for the results to be mailed around the office the day after!

Use the bash as a chance to get to know others outside your common working circle. This will pay massive workplace dividends and meet your goal of broadening interpersonal relations -not career-furthering opportunism, though frankly it can’t hurt!

Finally, limit your time spent with these people: The boss’s wife/husband (just in case you say too much to bore them!), the office pervert (you know why) or the hostile one (you don’t want her to bite your head off when she’s had a few, do you?)

So should you be the president of the rumour mill? The answer is no! Instead, aim to be the well-informed chick. Like it or not, office politics is here to stay and the only way to survive is to understand it. Office politics takes two forms.

The first involves attacking, blaming and withholding (info, resources and supplies).

The second is impression management, where one draws attention to their own success and takes credit for others’ accomplishments. Protect yourself by practising three golden rules:
Don’t make enemies, don’t burn bridges and never make anyone look bad. Don’t assume anything you say will stay a secret and steer clear from bitching sessions. It’s smart to know what’s happening around you, but learn not to get sucked in.