8 Wrong Decisions to Find Love
1. You choose the wrong person because you think that you will change once you will be married with him/her.
The rule is that if you cannot be happy with this person such as it is now, you do not marry him/her.
2. You choose the wrong person because you focused yourselves on his physique, more than on her character.
The physique can light a flame, but only a good character can maintain the flame. Be wary of the syndrome “I love you”. Often, “I love you” means “I wish you”. There is attraction, certainly; but did you carefully check qualities of character of the person?
Here thus four features of character which should absolutely be checked:
Humility. Does this person think who “to make what is appropriate” is more important than to enjoy its small personal comfort?
The kindness. Does this person like to give pleasure with others? How does it behave towards people to which it is not held to be good? Does it achieve voluntary functions? Does it give to charity?
The responsibility. Then I to count on this person, when she says that she will make certain things?
Happiness. Does this person like? Is it happy of living? Is it émotionnellement stable?
You question: Do I wish to resemble this person more? Do I want to have a child with this person? Do I wish that my child resemble this person?
3. You chose the wrong husband/wife because he/she does not know what you need.
The men and the women do not have the same emotional needs. Generally, they are the men who do not include/understand it.
The major need for the woman is to be liked. To feel that it is the most important person of the world in the life of her husband. The husband has the duty to dedicate to his wife a substantial attention and of quality.
4. You chose the wrong person because you do not share its goals in the life, nor its priorities in its choices.
We have three means to attach us to another person:
-Its physique and the compatibility of mood
-The same centers of interest are shared
-One shares the same goal in the life
5. You chose the wrong person because you engage too quickly from the point of view of sexuality.
6. You chose the wrong person, because you chose a person in company of which you do not feel a safety of your sentimentality.
7. You choose the wrong person because you seek the relation like means of escaping from your personal problems and your unbearable loneliness.
If you are unhappy single person, you probably unhappy will once be married.
8. You choose the wrong person because it is committed in a triangle.
It is said that a person is committed in a triangle in the direction where it depends on another person or a thing, whereas it tries to develop another relation.There are people whose marriage is compromised by triangulation of certain things, such as professional work, or dopes it, or the passion of the Internet, or the hobbies, or the sport or their love of the money.
Take to care to ensure you well that you and your partner are free of any triangle. A person taken in a triangle, cannot be fully available for you to the level of her feelings. You will not be his priority number one. And this does not constitute a healthy base for a marriage.
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