That’s what sisters are for
My sister and I have always been close. Six months ago, she joined the company I’ve been at for the past few years. Soon after that, she broke up with her boyfriend and started dating another co-worker, with whom I’ve never had a good working relationship. He has always been rude to me and I’ve tried to brush it off, but to no avail. Once, when my sister and I were talking, he walked up and interrupted me mid-sentence. I immediately stopped talking and she politely told him to wait until I was done, and he huffed away angrily. I’ve told my sister that I feel he disrespects me and she says nothing to him about it. I respect her decision to date him and I’d never ask her to break up with him. But am I crossing the line by asking her to have my back in situations when he’s being rude to me?
answer:
I am so sorry but if your sister likes this guy, then there’s nothing you can do but let her get on with it. Of course you’d hope that her loyalty is with you but if she can’t see that he is as bad as you say he is, then there’s nothing you can say to change that. If I were you, I’d be the bigger person and ignore what he says rather than ask her to stick up for you, which will irritate the hell out of him. He can only get you out of her life (which is doubtful anyway) by getting you to disapprove of the relationship and if you refuse to do that, he doesn’t have a leg to stand on. Stay out of his way as much as possible and let your sister make her own mistakes. After all, you’ll be there to pick up the pieces if she needs you to and that’s what sisters are for.
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