My best friend is having an affair
My best friend is having an affair and wants me to be his alibi. Am I wrong to ask him to leave me out of it?
answer:
Not at all. In fact, you’d only be abetting his downfall if you were to help him cheat. A recent study from the University of Florida shows that infidelity plays a role in up to 90 percent of divorces. “Eventually the situation will come to light, and it will be completely destructive for his family and your relationship with them,” says Scott Haltzman, M.D., author of The Secrets of Happily Married Men. “He might be upset with you in the short term, but eventually he’ll understand that you’re looking out for his best interests.” The hallmark of a good friend is the strength to guide someone through difficult situations. Break the ice at a gym or a bar so it doesn’t seem like an “intervention,” and explain that you can’t help him lie to his wife. If he asks why, mention the above statistic and tell him that you don’t want to aid in the destruction of his marriage. “He may very well tell you to blow it out your ear,” says Haltzman, “but eventually his fantasy will crumble and he’ll need you more than ever.”
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