Relationship borders
For men, there are delineated checkpoints along the highway of the heart. Gestures or moments you may overlook as inconsequential are in fact a man’s equivalent of choosing to take the express route to commitment as opposed to the scenic “let’s see what happens” path. Ready to analyze some route markers?
Once you can leave a stash at his place — along with a toothbrush, some emergency undies and even a compact EDP — without” it drawing comment or finding its way to the back of the cupboard, chances are he’s embraced the idea that your presence is nothing to hide. From other women he may have the luck to bring home. Yes, it’s a statement of monogamy. To himself. Plus, these utilitarian items can be a source of comfort in your absence. Even if they happen to be hygienically sealed.
In the early dating days, calling to ask you out on less than two days’ notice signalled an assumption that you have nothing better to do than wait for his call. Even if you’re free, chances are the man in question would get a rebuttal just to get the point. Slowly, however, the tango of negotiation is shelved. You know the relationship’s progressing when he doesn’t need to formally ask you out. It goes without saying that you’ll be spending most of the weekend together. Welcome to The Next Level.
The true sign of the depth of his feelings is when he can introduce his kin to you, then bag them in private. Should you start hearing about his father’s unrealistic expectations, his mother’s nagging, and his brother’s slight pyromania problem, nod understandingly. Then smile knowingly to yourself because you’ve just been granted entry into his emotional vault.
As you get more comfortable with each other, the fiscal situation becomes flexible. No more splitting bills down the middle or counting what each consumed. He pays for some items, you cover others. It all evens out in the end.
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