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Phone call and Pressure at Work
Take a look back at your calls at the end of a day and I’ll bet you discover that out of 50, only five really demanded your instant attention. The others could have waited.
Take control of your phone instead of letting it control you. Screen your calls or tell callers you’re in a meeting and will call back. Make use of voice-mail, if you have the facility, and use caller ID if your company’s phones have it.

So next time you take a call while you’re trying to do something else, try saying, “I can’t give your query the time it deserves right now so could you put it in an email instead please?” You’ll send a nice clear message that they’ll receive a better response from you online. Then everyone’s happy.

When something goes wrong
Confessing to your boss is a sensible move and will help you avoid that stressful what-happens-when-she-finds-out feeling. And while you shouldn’t underplay whatever that has happened, in case your boss learns the truth from someone else later, don’t beat yourself up either.

And don’t obsess over one mistake. Otherwise, your negative feelings about one failed project would spill over to the other things you’re working on and your career would then seem doomed. To stay positive and focused, write down a list of past successes, since simply writing things down would give you a better perspective.

When you and your friend use the same skincare products, and her skin turns up all nice and dewy but yours starts to resemble a pepperoni pizza, you know you’ve got sensitive skin, With such skin, using certain ingredients can trigger off a reaction similar to an allergy such as rashes, redness, and itchiness, Generally sensitive skins are more intolerant towards fragrances, scents and pore-clogging ingredients like mineral oil and lanolin. So, when you’re out shopping, make sure the products you buy are fragrance-free, non-comedogenic and hypoallergenic.

Can our skins really tell the difference between thermal water and plain old tap water?
There’s a reason why the rich and famous visit spa resorts so often. Dermatologists have found that tap water can strip the skin of its protective lipids and increase sensitivity. On the other hand, using thermal water can help to relieve skin conditions such as dryness and irritation because of its rich mineral content. Minerals like zinc and selenium are known for their skin-loving properties. So if you find your skin getting red and blotchy while you’re outdoors, a spray of thermal water might just reduce the redness.

We’re not talking extreme eating disorders here. This is the less-discussed, but more common phenomenon in which capable, clever women just can’t get their head around eating properly. Why do we torture ourselves? Naturally, as women, there’s no straight answer.

Seeing food as complicated is so deeply ingrained in many women’s minds that it’s hard to remember a time when we ate what we wanted in blissful ignorance.

Any food group could be substituted here (carbs being the current enemy). It’s a classic case of eating a certain way out of habit. Once considered completely bad, we now know there are good fats and bad fats. It’s a constant struggle to de-programme people and to teach them everything in moderation actually works. Fats have a purpose and are essential for good health; a body fed on little or no fat is at risk from cancer, heart disease, eczema, depression, fatigue, infections and poor memory.

It’s tempting to buy into the idea that cutting out a food group works in our quest to stay slim. While effective in the short-term, research shows that you’re doing nothing for your health or your looks over a longer period. Some diet recommendations are sensible - such as eating low-GI foods - but they’re about healthy foods, not becoming obsessive about what goes into your body. If you’re terrified of reintroducing a food group into your diet, see a nutritionist who’ll help you make more informed choices.

No matter how well-adjusted you are, there’s a good chance you’ve developed rules, regulations or guilt trips around your diet. Making an effort to eat healthily is great; what’s not good is creating unnecessary restrictions just so you feel in control.

Eating as much good food as you want, might be scary at first. When you give yourself this freedom, it’s normal to initially overindulge as you adjust to the idea that nothing is off-limits. But you’ll soon lose the desire to overeat, and you’ll also lose those silly cravings that emerges whenever you ban something.

Strategies for Getting Promoted

Dedication and positive attitude
Current status: Freelancer, intern, part-timer or temporary
Next step: entry-level staff position
At this point, attitude is everything. There’s a benefit to being so low on the totem pole - no one expects you to be an expert, so the accomplishments you achieve through your dedication and positive attitude will surprise them at every turn. If you want a full-time job, swallow your pride and do everything your boss asks -even if you think it’s beneath you. Whether it’s fetching coffee, making 100 photocopies or buying feminine hygiene products, do it with a smile and as quickly as possible.

Clue in quickly
Current status: entry-level staff position/assistant
Next step: mid-level job/associate
Doing the job with a smile isn’t enough anymore. Now the boss is watching to see if you’re a quick study, batting home runs on every assignment and contributing fresh ideas.

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Discrimination can be a very painful experience, not to mention, damaging to one’s self-esteem. Worst of all, it hampers your career prospects more than any other obstacle in the working world. But discrimination is also subjective, and is not always easy to recognize. How can you tell if you are being discriminated against without knowing it?

One of the more common examples of discrimination at the workplace is being excluded from office meetings and social events. When your entire team goes out to lunch to celebrate a major account, and do not (or belatedly) invite you, then you know something is wrong.

People who are excluded from meals or invites to meals should pay close attention to ensuring that they are assessed fairly at work. You could be getting trapped into not just being discriminated against, but also being seen as ineffective.

Often, isolating you from the support of colleagues is the first step towards sidelining you completely. You can tell that you’re not wanted and that you’re not appreciated when it happens. No one asks you to head any projects or stay back to help with deadlines anymore.

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How to deal with embarrassing friends? How many people do you know who have friends they actually don’t like all that much? People with friends who put them down in front of others, show them up, only seem to want to be their friends so they can be nasty to them or keep them around because they “have their uses”?

We can’t choose our families, but we can choose our friends. So how come some of us choose badly and then, having “picked” an embarrassing or irritating pal, continue to stay with them?

Insecurity often lies at the heart of embarrassing behavior. In all close friendships there’s an element of competitiveness and one person will feel more insecure than the other. When this is the case, the insecure one will try to demean their friend in public to overcome this insecurity.

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There is no time limit to an engagement, but there are definite engagement guidelines couples should follow. No matter how long the two of you have been engaged, you shouldn’t lose sight of the intent to actually get married. Engagement, for however long it goes on, is about building the foundations of marriage.

Sometimes people wait to marry because of positive reasons, such as saving for a home. Try to set a hypothetical time line and agree that if it still feels right to get married at that time, then you’ll do it. If that’s in three years, then so be it. The more you talk about the future, the better prepared you will be for it.

People choose engagement as a nice stepping stone between living together and marriage. Couples get engaged to show they’re different from other people who are just living together.

However, a couple may choose to stay engaged for a long time because they’re not ready for the whole “till death do us part” thing. Problems can start to arise though when they don’t discuss the next step. Engagement should be a time for preparation.

Symbolically, marriage does mean more and there are added pressures. You can be frowned upon today if you go into an unstable union. But it’s not until you start to challenge the foundations of your relationship that you can move forward. Your fear of the unknown won’t go away until you work out why you’re so scared.

If you feel ready to have the “So, when are we getting married?” talk, then go for it. Though men and women often see different outcomes, they both want the same things in life — love, stability and happiness.