How to win arguments
When you know you want a pair of pink sling backs in a size six you don’t go into a shop and ask for “something with heels”, do you? Be as explicit as this in arguments. Don’t be afraid to let people know exactly what you want from the start. It makes your argument more focused.
Depending on the person, decide how forceful you play it. Imagine the flirting techniques you’d use with different types of men and apply this to your argument style. Creative types may be turned on by passion but your bank manager might find it rather embarrassing. Tailor your mood to suit.
Pause for reservations. If people express concerns about your proposal, don’t rush in to counter them immediately. Given space to think through their concerns, people are more likely to get to the bottom of what’s bothering them.
Walk away when it’s not working. If you’re not getting anywhere, don’t be afraid to turn your back and regroup to resume the argument another day. It’s not a failure.
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