Feeling hurt or neglected by your best friend
If you’re feeling hurt or neglected by your best friend, cope effectively with these pointers:
don’t Ignore her or her calls - give her the chance to explain herself.
Call her the next day and tell her you feel upset about what she said and wanted to talk it through before your feelings turn into resentment.
don’t Bitch about her behind her back - bitching always gets back to the person it’s about and then it’ll start a feud. Plus she’ll feel hurt you didn’t come to her directly.
Keep quiet about your hurt feelings and discuss it only with your boyfriend - guys are hopeless at remembering gossip so you’ll be certain he won’t repeat it.
don’t Go sullen and silent.
Write your feelings in an email if you feel you can’t express them to he face-to-face.
don’t Obsess about it - you may be on the wrong track.
Find out what she meant by what she said or did. Chances are she had no idea her actions would hurt you and may be clueless that you were so upset by them.
don’t Lose your head or call her names - you may say something you regret.
Explain yourself calmly and clearly. Instead of doing it in a blaming way, eg., “You always put down my acting dreams”, make your point by explaining the way you feel eg., “When you make jokes about my acting classes I feel embarrassed and hurt”.
don’t Ask another pal to tell her you’re angry - turning this into a game of emotional blackmail doesn’t do anything to solve the problem.
Talk about it directly - it’s amazing how fast problems can be sorted just by talking them through.
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