I’ve fallen for my male best friend
What do I do? Proceed with caution, girl. Sometimes we confuse friendship with love, especially when we’re single and lonely. Think carefully and ensure your feelings are real before you do anything about acting on them. Be careful and be certain.
Is there any way I can try to find out if it’s reciprocated?
You can be a bit more flirtatious than usual. Suggest going out to a setting that feels a bit like a date (dinner for two) without actually calling it that. If he’s thrilled by the idea, then he might be feeling the same. If he’s terrified at the thought, then he probably isn’t. Some men, however, don’t comprehend signals and short of shoving your tongue down his throat, he might not get it. Test the waters but really, you might have to be prepared to take a chance.
Will the friendship be doomed anyway? when you change the boundaries, you’re going into the unknown. And it’s hard to go back, sometimes impossible. In most relationships, one partner ends it when the other doesn’t want to, thereby causing heartache and anger. I don’t think recapturing friendship is impossible in all cases, but I’m not going to tell you that it’s going to be easy.
OK how can I decide if I should pursue the possible romance or keep my paws off him?
First of all, make absolutely sure that your feelings are genuinely strong (strong enough for you to want to risk a fulfilling friendship!) because you could potentially lose your good buddy. Can you see yourself with this person for a long, longtime? If you can’t, then don’t even go there. Maybe loneliness is just playing tricks on you? If you weigh all the factors and still can’t get him nut of your head. go for it!
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