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How do I deal with this situation?
I lately approached a man in a friendly way and he flirted with me and seemed to like it. I am sure he knows I’m paying attention, but I still don’t make a point of sitting with him, occasionally I say Hi but I still carry on my way. I know he isn’t married and has had disappointing relationships. He is frequently quiet and I find that not easy to deal with. He seems to enjoy it when I talk and he smiles like I have made his day. But I would like for him to initiate a chat or approach me.
I am open to meeting other men and I don’t want to focus too much on him, but I want to follow my heart and not keep away from him - since really he’s done nothing wrong – I am just not sure how to go on. Any advice?

answer:
Why would you keep away from him? It’s not like something awful actually happened? I wouldn’t hold out too much hope, however. It sounds like you’ve made it more than clear that you’re open to any advances he might make and he’s not making them.

Who knows? Possibly he’s ending it right now with somebody else to free himself up to pursue you. Stay open.

He sounds shy and the reality that you kind of blew him off a few times probably made him feel like he should back off. For all you know he still likes you, approach him if you still see him, try to be friendly again. What’s the worst that can happen? If the discussion seems like it’s going well, ask him out to like coffee or something.

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My boss seems to love useless meetings. Anything I can do at these gatherings besides daydream?

answer:
Absolutely. A productive meeting establishes what needs to be done, who will do it, and when. With that in mind, informally help your boss. You can also model productive behavior by asking good questions, being accountable and dependable, and respecting others’ input. This should raise the energy in the room and gradually inspire others. Now, if the purpose of the meeting is to brainstorm ideas, then the what, who, and when aren’t required. In those meetings, it’s important to create an atmosphere where everyone’s ideas are welcomed and seriously considered. Here, creative daydreaming is definitely okay.

Our last kid moved out of the house, and my wife and I are suffering from empty nest syndrome. We’re like strangers. How can we bridge this gap?

answer:
Accept this time for what it is: an opportunity to reinvent yourselves and your marriage. It’s natural to feel the way you do. For 18 or more years, it has been “safe” not to communicate with your wife. You’ve focused all of your attention and energy on a higher priority—your children—and now you’re faced with constant togetherness and nothing to talk about. I’ve been there. Start getting to know each other again. Break out the photo albums from before your kids came along. What did you like to do back then? Go hiking? Then plan a trip to the Sierra Nevada. If you both sailed, take a sailing class. The key is to have fun together and let lightheartedness and good feelings grease the wheels of intimacy. Often, it just takes a little time for couples to recognize the perks of not having kids around—like sex in the living room!

My wife and I always feel stressed, our family is suffering, but our marriage more so. What can we do?

Answer:
Sacrifice is part of parenthood, but at no time should you sacrifice your marriage. Try this: After the kids are in bed, carve out 15 minutes for each other. Turn off the TV and have a chat to catch up. Then, once a month—without fail—go on a date. Use the time to congratulate and thank each other. You want to be like a farmer gazing upon his plowed and seeded fields: Envision the present and future fruits of your labor. Doing so will help you develop a taste for a simpler but fuller life. You’ll begin to see which kid commitments are important and which are unnecessary. You probably think this is a silly idea. I did, too, but then I tried it.

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