My mother has recently started seeing a new man
My father passed away a couple of years ago and after much loneliness, my mother has recently started seeing a new man. I’m delighted for her and enjoy seeing her so happy again. She’s like a smitten teenager! However, I’m having trouble relating to this guy. It’s not that I don’t like him. Rather, the only other older gent I’ve ever really interacted with was my dad and this situation’s making me miss him terribly. Any tips?
answer:
For starters, the man your mother is with is obviously going to rekindle memories of your father as that was the role he played (among others) in your life. So don’t beat yourself up about it. Next, it’s important to realise that just because your mum gets on with him like a house on fire, you’re not automatically going to do the same. These things take time and the fact that you like him means you’re already ahead of the game. Many in your position would not be so open-minded. As far as topics of conversation go, ask him about his own children, his work, hobbies and so on. What you’re doing here is learning about each other. At times when the conversation is stilted, just remind yourself how this man is making someone you love very happy.
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