Signs of controlling friend
You have to drop whatever you’re doing at a moment’s notice to accommodate her.
Your opinions are constantly brushed aside.
She expects you to subscribe to her point of view on everything.
You’re expected to speak, act and think in line with a certain “code of conduct” as dictated by her.
She attempts to take over your other friends and shut you out.
She gets mad if you don’t want to go along with her plans.
You always end up giving in to her demands because you feel guilty or want to avoid her temper tantrums.
She steam rolls you into making the same decisions she would, whether it’s about your next career move, date or plans for the weekend.
You’re held responsible for her own unhappiness or insecurities with her life.
You feel as though she’s trying to turn you into a clone of her.
She begrudges you your promotion, new man, new apartment or new car.
You suspect she believes she’s superior to you.
You feel low or exhausted after every conversation with her.
You’re made conscious of your flaws or insecurities every time you see or talk to her.
She justifies her actions by telling you it’s for your own good.
She deliberately undercuts you by giving you bad advice, undermining your confidence or sabotaging your new relationships.
She thinks nothing of inconveniencing you for her whims and fancies.
She is forever giving you unwanted advice.
She points out what’s wrong consistently, not what’s right. She won’t let the friendship move forward.
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Jul 7th 2008 at 4:15 am
Wow. I have a friend exactly like this. Because I told her a few stories about a girl I’ve been friends with for years, I hang out with her once and I get a 2 hour lecture about why I can’t be friends with my other friend anymore she’s also trying to take over my other friends and shut me out. And she tells me that its for my own good. word for word.