How can I get him back on track without sounding like a nag?
When we got married, my husband and I sat down and divided up the household chores. We made sure that neither of us would resent the tasks handed out by choosing ones we preferred. Six months into the marriage and my husband is not doing his jobs or is just doing the bare minimum. How can I get him back on track without sounding like a nag?
answer:
It’s time to fish out that original piece of paper on which you allotted the various tasks. Try not to make this an inquisition but rather point out that you don’t feel the original set-up is working and that it may need a tune-up. By avoiding blame and referring to the initial agreement, you can make your valid point in a non-aggressive way. It’s also worth considering that men and women approach certain tasks in different ways. For example, many of us won’t lift an object to dust under it as logic dictates dust that can’t be seen doesn’t have to be removed. The point is your bare minimum may be his version of acceptable so point out how you’d like things done instead of assuming he is intentionally cutting corners. Then acknowledge his efforts when he gets it right.
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