My sister isn’t quite as successful as I am
My younger sister isn’t quite as successful as I am, in terms of career. I’m 27, she’s 25. While growing up, our parents would always compare us the way typical Chinese parents do.
Their intentions were to motivate her to do better, but it’s backfired as she now feels inferior to me. She hasn’t said this out loud, but I just feel it. What can I do?
answer:
From your letter, I can tell that you are a good sister. Your sister probably feels under pressure to achieve like you, and that in itself can stop someone from doing so. Now, good sister, your job is to help build up her self-esteem. You might be siblings but that doesn’t mean you have to be alike. She will have her strengths which could be completely different from yours. Help her to identify the things that make the two of you different, which can help her find her own success. If your parents won’t back off, step in and be the big sister she needs. Help her build her self-esteem and find her identity.
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