Wife earn more than husband
I earn more than my husband. When we bought our condo, we agreed that I’d pay two-thirds of the loan and he’d pay one-third plus the other bills. Lately, he keeps complaining about how much he’s been forking out. Why is he behaving like this is a competition and he’s winning by being a cash martyr?
answer:
I’m putting my money on the fact that although he said he’s okay with you earning more, his sense of self-esteem was a little knocked around by the concept. Traditionally men have always derived a great sense of kudos from being the breadwinners and without this, many a sense of identity has been questioned. About time too - men have to realise there’s more to being a good partner than just bringing home cash. Your man is struggling with the idea that you don’t value his contribution. Acknowledge it, ask if he’d like to re-evaluate the agreement - chances are you’ll get a “no” and this behavior should fade.
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Jan 27th 2008 at 4:03 am
There’s 2 way of saying it.
1. Man are egoistic and the past has taught them to be better than woman. But people always dwell into this and make man have all the faults. Saying like that will only make woman complain more about man and being a victim. And blaming man like this will impact the relationship in a bad way.
Here’s another way of looking it.
2. Woman are subconsciously trying to prove that they are better than man. This is true and you can see woman around are doing it nowadays. Man don’t normally react and feel threaten if woman make more money than them. There are many woman make more money than him and he don’t feel angry about them. It’s the wife herself did something that trigger his psychology button and make him angry.
To prevent this from happening, woman can stop proving themselves in front of who they love. For man, man can stop winning your own wife. There’s nothing to win in a relationship. If someone try to win in the argument, both lose in the relationship!
Alex Liu
How To Become A Millionaire
http://secretsofunlimitedwealth.com
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