How do I get him to lose the baseball cap and dress his age?
When my husband and I got together five years ago, I kinda like the fact that he was never without his baseball cap. Not only was it fashionable but it gave him a kind of quirky idiosyncrasy. I didn’t even mind that he wore it at night or indoors. Now, however, the look is kinda dated and he’s not 18 anymore. How do I get him to lose the cap and dress his age?
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Me thinks ifs not merely about the cap. Forgive the symbology tangent here but I reckon you’re seeing this innocuous - if prehistoric fashion -item as representing his unwillingness to grow up in other ways. Hence the “he’s not 18 anymore” line. Is there something in his behavior that isn’t measuring up to your expectations of how you thought life would be with him at 23 ? If so, face it, deal with it and talk about it. If it is merely about the cap, a bit of straightforward talk should do the trick: “Babe, I think the cap’s done its time” will probably suffice without being unduly harsh, personal or critical. In other words, make it about the cap as opposed to him.
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