how to start a conversation with my partner about sharing the chores equally?
Can you suggest a good way to start a conversation with my partner about sharing the chores equally? I know that beginning with “you never help me around the house” isn’t going get me very far.
answer:
This problem is as common as it is easy to solve. You’re bang on the money about using the word “never”. Instead, approach the topic by acknowledging the things he does help with. Then say that although you appreciate them, you feel that you shoulder the lion’s share of chores and would like a little more help. If he disputes your point of view, pull out a list with your activities on one side and his on the other. Faced with this evidence, he will have no choice but to divide things more equally - but the worst thing you can do when he starts taking on these extra tasks is criticise the way he does them.
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