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I made the mistake of sleeping with a male friend of mine and he now thinks the relationship is something it is not. I want to go back to the way things were, but I think it’s too late and I’m going to end up hurting his feelings. Is there any way, I can minimize the impact?

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Probably not as it sounds like this guy has long been carrying a torch for you without you knowing it. What may - although I can’t give any guarantees here - go some way to repairing the damage you have caused is a sincere apology in which you take sole responsibility for the event. Granted you may not deserve it but it will help to ease his pain. That said, things have probably changed for ever. It’s up to you to find new comfortable ground. If he’ll let you.

Years ago, my family and I lived in an apartment building where another family with two young daughters had a home. The daughters were eight and nine years younger than my brother and I so we thought of them as children. Fast forward 12 years and my brother is dating the eldest sister. He is 33 and she is 25.I know this isn’t a great age difference but something about the liaison just doesn’t feel right. Am I crazy to feel this way?

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Yes. What’s freaking you out is that your brother is probably having sex with a woman - that word again: Woman - he knew as a child. If they can get over this so can you. Eight years between adults means absolutely nothing and as long as they are happy, who gives a toss. Right?

I thought I’d surprise my husband by getting a Brazilian as I’d been told all men find it very sexy. Being an open-minded and adventurous woman, I thought why not give it a try. When I unveiled it - so to speak - my husband was not turned on at all. In fact it was just the opposite. What gives?

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As soon as you get into proclamations such as “all guys find X a turn-on”, you might as well prepare for disappointment for all concerned. When talking sexual arousal, there are as many preferences as there are people and no universal laws apply. Like many men, your husband is probably not a Brazilian fan for several reasons. First, the look carries with it certain pre-pubescent connotations which can be off-putting. Second, he may love the look and feel of your pubic hair. Stranger things have been known to happen in bed. The good news is that things will return to their natural state. The bad news? One word: Regrowth.

A friend of mine was recently asked out by my ex-boyfriend. The relationship ended a few years ago by mutual consent and I haven’t spoken to him since. When he met with my friend, she did the right thing and asked if I had any reservations about her dating him. At the time, I couldn’t picture myself having a problem with it, but now, I am beginning to feel a bit disgruntled and even slightly jealous! What’s going on here?

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It’s simple. You want what you can’t have. Making this situation all the more intense is the fact that this couple is probably in the first throes of infatuation where life is a sex-filled party of romance. Which probably makes stinging viewing if you happen to be single, which I’m guessing you are. The good news is that the cure is simple. Remind yourself why you broke up in the first place and if you can’t remember enlist the help of a girlfriend who was around at the time.

My boyfriend and I recently moved in together and he has this annoying habit. I get home from work before he does but when he arrives, the evening begins with criticisms: “Would you please hang up the bathmat when you’re done with it” or “could you please not leave your handbag on the dining room table”. He’s never aggressive or impolite and in some cases he’s had to ask the same question several times, but it still bugs me. How can I alter this dynamic?

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For a start, you can begin by listening to his requests, within reason of course. Let’s say, for example, he feels strongly about the bath mat, when you leave it on the floor, the situation no longer revolves around a damp towel. It’s about you not respecting his way of doing things. That’s one side of the equation. The other is that no one likes living with an army sergeant so point out that you feel as if the first thing he does on entering your mutual home is find fault. Provide him with examples and then point out that while you are amenable to fixing the situation, there are certain ways you prefer to be asked. Most of these follow the phrases “hello” and “how are you?”

While on my honeymoon in Australia my husband and I walked past a sex shop. He was keen to have a look, but I wasn’t so I suggested he go in and I’d meet him at a cafe in 15 minutes. This wasn’t enough of a compromise for him and he hinted that I was a prude, Then added if we weren’t going to be a little adventurous during the honeymoon, it was probably never going to happen. I was upset by his statement. Would going inside have prevented this distress?

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Probably not as it sounds like you have married someone with a penchant for emotional manipulation.Truth be told he is also probably not above using the line “if you loved me you would” in bed,This is behavior that needs to be remedied now. By allowing him the freedom to check out what was on offer, you exhibited the life blood of relationships: Compromise. And he responded with childish petulance. If he wanted to add a new dimension to your sex life, dragging you into a porn emporium is not the way to do it.

I’m a girl with an obvious Adam’s apple and I’m thinking of getting an operation to reduce the size of it. Can you tell me why I have this “manly” feature?

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Although a characteristic primarily associated with post-pubescent men, the Adam’s apple is nothing more than cartilage. But some women do have larger Adam’s apples than other women, similar to how some women have facial hair or large feet, also characteristics that are more often associated with men. You may have slightly larger Adam’s apple due to hormones your body produced during puberty, or maybe what you think is an Adam’s apple is actually a growth indicative of something else. Do make an appointment with a doctor to check this. Even though your Adam’s apple most likely is the harmless result of your hormones, social stereotypes can obviously contribute to the feelings of embarrassment. Talking with a therapist might help you to recognize and appreciate the emotions you’ve had and learn to restore your confidence. It is also possible that you are overreacting and exaggerating to yourself the size of your larynx cartilage. Surgery should be your very last resort, and only if you cannot learn to be happy with your body as it is. While the operation to reduce the size of an Adam’s apple is relatively harmless, it can result in scars and possible changes to the voice.