How can my partner be too tired to talk but have boundless energy for sex?
Whenever I try to have a conversation with my husband after nine pm, he yawns and claims he’s exhausted.Yet the instant we crawl into bed, he starts kissing me all over, pressing his erection against my thigh… and we end up making love, even if I’m not in the mood. What I’d like to know is, how can my partner be too tired to talk but have boundless energy for sex?
Answer:
Despite mental fatigue at the end of a long day, your husband’s libido rages on. Sounds as though job-related tension is hampering his desire to converse, not to make love. By generously consenting to sex—even though you’d rather be doing something else you’re relieving his stress, helping him sleep, and growing extremely resentful. After he rolls over, do you stare at the ceiling and silently simmer? Rather than let this anger burn holes in your marriage, inform Hubby how much his insensitivity hurts you but do it early, when his energy is high. Remember, it takes two to communicate; pay attention to him and he’ll pay attention to you. Ask about his work, solicit his opinions, listen to his replies. You’re not obligated to say yes every time his passions rise, of course, but I recommend jump-starting your own lust by fantasizing and being more adventurous in bed. Why don’t you surprise him by initiating sex… tomorrow morning?
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