He likes me as a friend, not as a girlfriend
I’ve known him for years and loved him completely for the past two, but I don’t know if he loves or even likes me back. He seems to really enjoy talking to me, but when my two friends asked him if he liked me, he wouldn’t look at me for days. The most confusing thing is he flirts with every girl except me. Sometimes I think if he liked me he’d flirt with me too, but other times I think maybe that’s why he doesn’t flirt—that I’m the exception. Anyway, I can’t get him off my mind! Do you think he likes me? Is there potential for a future romance for us, or should I try to focus on another guy?
answer:
You should focus on another guy, if you can, or at least stop dwelling on this one. I’m not saying he doesn’t like you—and if you think he enjoys talking to you, I’m sure you’re right (he’s also probably flattered that you like him). But when you spend two years lusting after a guy and he doesn’t respond in any way except to pretend you don’t exist the one time you send him a clue, he’s pretty clearly not into hooking up. He’s also probably trying not to lead you on (which may be why he doesn’t flirt with you but does with everyone else). But, hey, why trust me? If you’re still not convinced, you could always ask him point-blank how he feels. You’ll risk some awkwardness and maybe a flat-out rejection (or another bout of the silent treatment), but at least you’ll know for sure where you stand.
Once you’re sure of the facts,decide whether you can continue to be friends with him without an alyzing his every glance and secretly hoping for more all the time. If that would be too torturous, stay away from him for a while and look for new people (or interests) to help take your mind in different directions.
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