Dumped! Here’s how to avoid it
When it comes to receiving the big heave-hof do you feel like you’re the reigning title-holder? There may be some ways that you could be contributing to the problem. Read on for typical symptoms—and solutions!
1″I don’t have an attitude problem. Sometimes he just says the lamest things, I have to call him on it.”
• Symptom: You’ve become so comfortable with his company that you think nothing of popping off with a criticism or a snide remark.
• Solution: Adjust your attitude! You don’t need to be hyper aware of every comment you make. But do think twice before delivering verbal zingers and flippant comments. Overtime, such banter can cause a guy to decide he’s had enough!
2 “I used to spend hours getting ready to go out with him. But we’ve been seeing each other for awhile now. It’s sweats and a ponytail for me!”
• Symptom: You’ve turned into a complete lounge act.
• Solution: Take the time to pay more attention to your appearance. You don’t have to spend hours preening for the guy. Many guys prefer a natural look when it comes to makeup and hair. But avoid chipped nail polish, hair hidden under a baseball cap because you were too lazy to wash it, scuffed-up shoes, clothes that need ironing and mending. While guys may not notice things down to the last detail, they do like to know that you’ve made an effort when it comes to your appearance. And you’ll feel better about yourself knowing you look your best!
3 “We have a lot of lulls in our conversa tions, and I feel like he might be bored with my company.”
• Symptom: You’re so worried about how you’ll come across that you hardly utter a word.
• Solution: Evaluate what the two of you have in common. Talk about something strange that happened to you during the day. Ask him questions about things that he’s involved with. Get his opinion on the movie you’ve just seen together.
4 “I’m not checking up on him. I’m just letting him know that I care.”
• Symptom: Your need to know his whereabouts at all times is making you look like a complete control freak.
• Solution: Ease up on your overly inquisitive questions. Guys like to know you care, but they don’t need someone checking up on them every minute of the day. Your constant need to know may be a sign to him that you don’t really trust him that much.
5 “He’s the guy. He should make the plans.”
• Symptom: Your views on dating date back to the era of the dinosaurs.
• Solution: If the idea of taking the initiative and making plans seems scary, tell yourself that you’re just trying out a tem porary role reversal.
6 “I’m not sure that he really likes me.”
• Symptom: You’ve got a serious case of Insecuritis!
• Solution: Heal thyself. Remind yourself that he likes you, and realize that if one day he stops, you’ll be fine without him! Plus, learn to like yourself. List 10 reasons that you’re special. Study it, memorize it, believe it.
7 “I’m not pushing him. I just need to know where things stand.”
• Symptom: You always need to talk about “the relationship.”
• Solution: Guys like girls who know what they want, but they don’t want to feel railroaded. Get to know what’s important to you and to the guy you’re dating. Don’t try to be someone you’re not for his benefit, or you’ll never feel truly comfortable in your relationship.
8 “I think it’s important that a guy feels you need him.”
• Symptom: You have become too clingy. • Solution: Do you tell him that he’s the best thing that ever happened to you? Do you wish you could be with him seven days a week? If so, then you may be overwhelming him. Give each other some space. Go out with your friends, and encourage him to see his friends. You’ll end up enjoying each others’ company much more.
9 “I’m not jealous. It just bugs me when he talks to other girls.”
• Symptom: You’ve started to view the guy in your life as a possession.
• Solution: Hang out with him, but don’t hang on to him. Just because you two are linked doesn’t mean you have to put a monitoring device on the guy. Give him some freedom, or he may end up wanting to be free from you.
10.”He is not my idea of a dream guy, but everyone seems to think we make a good couple.”
• Symptom: You care more about the idea of being in a relationship than you do about your guy. Guys wise up fast and go after girls who want them for who they are, not what they represent.
• Solution: If you’re not really interested in a guy whom is interested in you or who your friends feel you should be with, be honest with yourself. And if you always pick guys who wind up dumping you, you might want to reevaluate the type of guy you choose—and what you really want in a relationship!
by CCoss
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