I have been with my boyfriend for three years. But though we have been a loving couple, I always take my anger out on him. i thought he was alright about it because each time he would try to make me smile. But one day, he suddenly said that he could not stand it anymore and wanted a break-up. I felt really sad and asked for a second chance. He agreed to it but he said things will not be the same again. From then onwards, he doesn’t touch or kiss me like he used to. I am very confused and sad now. How can I start to mend the relationship?
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It’s such a shame your boyfriend took so long to tell you this, isn’t it? He’s given you a second chance but now you’re walking on eggshells, afraid of upsetting him. The only way to clear the air is to have a good talk about it. Say you didn’t realize how upset it made him when you “showed” him your temper and you’ll try to curb it in future. But part of the sheer joy of being in a loving couple is feeling able to let someone see us at our worst but still loving us despite it. It won’t work if you’re on edge all the time so ask him to cut you some slack.
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I was sexually abused as a child, but it didn’t affect me so much then as it does now. I’m 17 and I find myself having trouble communicating with boys, let alone falling in love with any of them. I’ve tried talking about this to a trusted adult but I still feel the same. I’m getting depressed. Should I see a psychologist?
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Firstly, I am so very sorry you were abused as a child. Next, I totally understand that you might feel afraid of seeing a psychologist about this but can I please urge you to do so? Or to get some kind of help. You are clearly very self aware since you recognize that the abuse is now making it difficult, if not impossible, for you to form relationships with boys. I expect you have an issue around trust and fear letting anyone get too close. Therapy, or just talking to someone experienced in this, could be of enormous benefit.
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I have small white bumps under both of my eyes. They’re at my under-eye area and won’t go away no matter how much I exfoliate them. How do I get rid of them?
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The bumps are called milia and they occur when skin cells become trapped rather than exfoliate naturally. The trapped cells then turn into tiny cists below the surface of the skin. One of the main causes of milia is using products that are too heavy for your skin type such as moisturisers, eye creams, sunscreen, foundation, even hair care products. The area under the eye is most prone to milia because the skin is thin. The best way to prevent it from forming is to exfoliate frequently with a gentle scrub. It’s difficult to remove milia on your own. You can either get a facialist to extract it or if it’s too stubborn, you might need to remove it with laser therapy.
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I have suffered from sweaty hands and feet for about 10 years. I have to bring a handkerchief along wherever I go. I am always scared to shake other people’s hands. Can it be cured? Do I need to undergo a surgery?
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Focal hyperhidrosis or excessive sweating at the hands, feet, armpits or face happens both to males and females and for the most part it’s passed along genetically. There have been various methods recommended in the past such as lotions, pills, acupuncture and even electric devices but the effects have been temporary. For now the best option available that might possibly provide a cure is a Sympathectomy. The surgery for excessive hand sweating is called Endoscopic Thoracic Sympathectomy and for the legs it’s called Lumbar Sympathectomy. Both these procedures can be done on an outpatient basis. See your general practitioner and ask him or her to refer you to a specialist that deals with hyperhidrosis to advise you and discuss your options.
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I’m suffering from serious dandruff problem. My scalp is itchy most of the time and it’s very embarrassing especially in public. I tried using a number of dandruff control shampoos but they do not seem to work. What should I do?
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Dandruff can happen to both people with dry scalp and oily scalp. Generally it’s attributed to excessive sebum production on the scalp but it’s been increasingly acknowledged among medical practitioners that a tiny fungus called Pityrosporum ovale, or P. ovale for short, is responsible for the itch and flaking. There are many causes to dandruff. The internal causes include hormonal imbalance, poor health, stress, improper nutrition, over-consumption of sugar, fat and starch, lack of rest and allergic hypersensitivity. The external causes are excessive use of styling products, inadequate rinsing of shampoo and conditioner, infrequent washing and also excessive use of heating tools like curling irons. Since you have tried many commercial shampoos and they have not worked, I’d suggest that you see a dermatologist to first get the problem in control.
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What is the rule with having ex-boyfriends on your MySpace or Facebook site? Two of my exes are on my myspace site and when my current boyfriend saw them there, he became a bit weird. It wasn’t as if he asked me to delete them, but I got the distinct feeling that he wouldn’t have minded in the least if I did.
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If only life were like computers and you could delete your history. Guess again buddy. We all come with baggage and a past - which no one should have to give up in order to have a future. This man needs to have the balls to deal with the fact that you are in contact with your exes. His insecurity verges on the nauseating and he certainly wouldn’t make it into my Top Friends.
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The other day, my husband asked whether I would have a Brazilian wax. He’s not the most vocal person about his sexual desires, so I was taken aback. I want to please him but don’t really like the idea of going hairless. Aside from this look being a bit prepubescent for my liking, I imagine the regrowth wouldn’t be much fun at all. The problem is, if I refuse, he may not come forward with any other requests.
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Four words: wax on, wax off. I know where you are coming from on the prepubescent thing, so why not find middle ground with a neat little landing strip? As for the regrowth, I can only imagine that bitch of an itch. My suggestion is try it once and see how you feel. Many women have made the switch and love it - as do their men. Should you choose not to go there again, you have at least shown yourself to be open to his suggestions. Which means you can put forward a few of your own or at least give the green light to more of his.
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